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Qixi Festival must learn how ancient people show affection

Many couples enjoy the behavior of “showing affection”, and post it in Moments if they have nothing to do, while single dogs grit their teeth and look disgusted. A long time ago, our ancestors had already begun to show affection. These people are actually telling us with their actions: the highest state of showing affection is true affection.

Raise eyebrows

Liang Hong in the Eastern Han Dynasty worked for others, doing physical labor such as pounding rice. Every day after get off work, his wife Meng Guang prepared dinner early, held it on a tray, raised it up to the height of his eyebrows, and offered it to Liang Hong to eat. look. This is the story of the idiom “raise the eyebrows together”. Nowadays, “raise the case with the same eyebrows” has been used to describe the respect between husband and wife as guests.

Zhang Chang Thrush

Zhang Chang of the Western Han Dynasty was a son of an official. He once served as a local administrator, a governor of Yuzhou, and a Beijing official, Jing Zhaoyin. But what he is fond of for later generations is not his political achievements, but the secrets of his boudoir. “Han Shu Zhang Chang Biography” contains: (open) also thrushes eyebrows for women, Chang’an Zhongchuan Zhang Jingzhao eyebrows. There are divisions to play open. When I asked, I said to him: “I heard that in the boudoir, there are some people who are more private than thrushes in the boudoir.”

Zhang Chang, who is the supreme chief executive of the majestic capital, actually painted his wife’s eyebrows at home, and the painting was done as soon as he painted it. This matter was spread to everyone in the capital. The emperor had no choice but to ask whether the impeachment was true, but Zhang Chang not only did not deny it, but also said bluntly: what a husband and wife do in the boudoir is more intimate than a thrush. The implication is that if it is a crime to draw eyebrows on the wife, then it is an unforgivable crime to have sex with the wife, thus implicitly pointing out the absurdity of the defenders by reductio absurdum. Thrush for a wife has also become a symbol of intimacy and love between husband and wife.

Eternal Love

Wang Rong, one of the “Seven Sages of the Bamboo Forest” in the Wei and Jin Dynasties, and his wife are also very affectionate. “Shishuoxinyu·Huoyu” records: Wang Anfeng’s wife, Changqing Anfeng. An Feng said: “It’s disrespectful for a woman to be dear to her son-in-law. Don’t come back to me later.” .

Mrs. Wang often does not call Mr. Wang Rong directly, but calls him “Qing”, just like today’s “dear”. Changed his words, but the wife justified her words and said: I call you dear because I love you. If I can’t call you dear, who should I call you?<br/> This is a sad love story between husband and wife – Xun Fengqian and his wife Zhidou, Dongyue’s wife was sick with fever, so she went out of the atrium to get cold and ironed it with her body. When the woman died, the Empress Fengqian also died when she was young.

Xun Fengqian is the son of Xun Yu, an important counselor of Cao Cao, and the specific name of his wife is no longer available. His wife fell ill in winter and had a fever all over his body. Xun Fengqian ran to the yard to freeze his whole body, and then went back to the house to drive his wife away from the heat with his own cold body. His wife died in the end, and Xun Fengqian died soon after. A large part of the cause of his death was the excessive grief of missing his wife.

Book gambling

In the first year of the founding of Jingguo (1101), Huizong of the Northern Song Dynasty, seventeen-year-old Li Qingzhao married Zhao Mingcheng, an imperial student. Li Qingzhao recalled in detail the life details of “gambling books and splashing tea” with her husband Zhao Mingcheng in “Jinshilu·Sequel”: <br/> In the history of books, it is said that something is on the page and line of a certain volume of a certain book, and whether the winner or loser is determined by the order of drinking tea. In the middle of the day, he toasted and laughed, until the tea was overturned in his arms, but he couldn’t drink it…

Until death

Nalan Xingde (styled Rongruo) of the Qing Dynasty married Lu Shi at the age of seventeen, and the couple had a very strong relationship. Unfortunately, Lu died three years after the marriage. Nalan Xingde once wrote many poems in memory of his deceased wife. One of them, “Huanxisha”, has two lines in the bottom of the poem: Don’t be surprised by wine, spring sleeps heavily, and gambling books disappears with the fragrance of tea.

The first sentence is translated from Cheng Gai’s “Sorrowful Yilan” in the Southern Song Dynasty: “Last night, there was a lot of wine and heavy sleep in spring, so don’t surprise him.” Sleep for a while, so tell the maids not to wake him up. The second sentence uses the above-mentioned allusion of Li Qingzhao. From these two sentences of Nalan Xingde, we can roughly see how similar he and his wife Lu Shi were in life tastes, and how they cared for each other in the details of life.

Thousands of miles to send lychees

“A concubine who rides the red dust smiles, no one knows that it is litchi.” It is said that Concubine Yang loves litchi, and Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty was lucky with people and horses. Because the horse ran too fast, he could only see the billowing smoke and dust rolled up by the horse’s hoof. Saw the galloping horses passing by. As the saying goes, a hero is saddened by a beauty. Tang Xuanzong really worked hard to smile for Bo Hongyan. At that time, looking at the world, Tang Xuanzong was the only one who could confidently say, “My concubine, all the lychees in the world have been contracted by me!”